Tuesday, May 1, 2012

My return HOME


4/23/2012
My Home away from HOME – My return HOME

So on 1/20/2012 I decided in the presence of Sarah & Eric to take a 3 month fast from Community.  I think I decided this for 3 reasons:
1)      I was obsessing over Community.
2)      I felt I was the only one who really cared about community & if I stopped working towards Community it would simply fade away.
3)      I believe a novice discerning HOME Community must have an extended time separated from the life of Community
 Since HOME yet has neither a tangible location nor members I felt called to take a mental separation.

These last 3 months were long & filled with an agonizing longing for HOME.  I certainly did not fast perfectly but I strived to stop talking, reading, thinking, & planning about Community.

Well at 9:48 am 4/20/2012, the first thing I did was read all the blog posts that the other Community members, Sarah, Eric, Kelsey, & Molly posted on our HOME Blog.

I was hoping this fast would end with profound new insights on life in Community. Not sure it has.

I did however realize that all 3 reasons for my fast were good reasons … I was obsessing.  … a novice would not be fully prepared for Community life w/o life separated from HOME for an extended time.

3 Insights/Points that have surfaced in the 3 days since the breaking of my fast
1)      It will be difficult for me to let go of control of the individual/uniqueness/freedom/etc. of each member in the Community.  I am drawn toward a need to control people’s responses/personalities/desires/joys/passions & when they are not like mine temptations to manipulate enter in. Forgive me for this & give me strength in this
a.       Learned this point by reading the blog posts from Jan 20, 2012 à 4/20/2012
2)      A sentiment that I so desire to always feel but also I long/pain for those who don’t & desire that priority #2 of HOME should be to foster this sentiment for “members” & “guest”
“HOME is where you can go without being a guest.” (page153)
“There’s always hope when you find the home where you’re not a guest.  I sincerely believe that kind of home is found by choosing to have a personal relationship with God and fellowship with people who also have chosen such a relationship.” (page242)
This sentiment & quotes I found in a book I read during my fast, thinking it would be a safe book, not dealing with Community called “Castaway Kid”
3)      I made point #2 = Priority #2 because; The one conclusion I realized today & inspired me to make this journal entry is I believe the largest insight this fast has afforded me. When I asked myself this afternoon, why do I want Community so intensely, why does the longing inside me make me HOME sick?
a.       I think 3 months ago I would have had a whole list of answers as to why: Community would be good for me, easier to live simply, safer & more financially secure, sharing resources, easier environment to be good, great witness to the world how early Christians lived, freer to help more people in need, It seems like it would be tons of fun to live/work/play/pray with my friends!!  The list would have been long.  But today the only thing & first thing that came to mind was: Why? BECAUSE I WANT TO DO THIS FOR GOD. I want to live in Community as a gift for God.
b.      I don’t know if He even wants this gift but I felt I ONLY WANT TO DO THIS TO PLEASE GOD.

To HIM Be the Glory